Have you ever heard the saying “you can’t love other people fully if you don’t love yourself first?” You probably have been the receiving end of that statement from a friend. The concept means that in order to have a loving nourishing relationship with other people around you, one must first learn how to love oneself. That means, the key to having a good balance relationship with other people and the world around you is to create and maintain inner peace and harmonious relationship with oneself and inner body-mind ecology.
The meaning of self-love is different for each person’s perspective based from one’s unique belief system. That belief system or mindset programming is inherited from parents, ancestral lineage and the cultural tribe that nurture, care and protected us the best way they knew how.
Self-love, as I discovered in my personal life experiences, scientific research studies, bioregulatory medicine, neuroscience, and philosophical teachings from East among others, is about being consciously connected to one’s spirituality or higher self (body, mind, heart, and soul’s alignment to divine source). Source is what we refer to as the Universal or Divine consciousness, God, Great Spirit, Allah, Yahweh, Elohim, or whatever you believe as your life source.
We are all spiritual beings having a physical experience of what life is about. Therefore, understanding that self-love is about knowing wholeness of oneself from perspective of physical self (visible matter) and the soul/spirit self (invisible energy).
Additionally, self-love is the result of knowing, understanding, and being conscious of your physical and spiritual self-care need and desires such as eating high nutritious foods that can best supply vital clean energy source to our physical and energy bodies. Awareness of oneself, balancing the body-mind system, and conscious connection as to the best use of one’s will power to make appropriate action when feeling frustrated, stressed, overwhelmed and stressed out are just some of the basic acts of self-love.
Psychologists suggest that self-love, along with compassion, is the key for mental health and well-being for it helps lower the possibilities of anxiety and depression. Some personality traits such as being perfectionism are more prone to mental illnesses. Constant self-criticism and comparison to other people generates negative thoughts which can lead to stress, and eventually to illnesses.
When one is fully connected on his or her whole-being and one’s authentic self, it is easy to put one’s needs and desires into action. Balancing negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings of not being good enough or not being loved while accepting one’s strengths and weaknesses is an easy task when you practice daily act of self-love.
Where it began
Have you ever wondered where did you learn the concept of love? Even before you were born, your parents took the decision to care for their health the best way they know how to make sure you develop to be a healthy baby. That alone is love in itself. Those who took care of us (parents, siblings, grandparents, etc.) passed on to us the belief system and the concept of love they learned from their childhood and present environment. Parent’s discipline, which one can consider as the tough side of love, is love. On the other hand, spoiling children is an example where a child can grow up with less responsibility. It’s important to bring into one’s awareness that balancing the two sides to love is our ultimate goal to achieve harmony.
Basically, the belief system of what love is from the people around you while growing up contributes largely on the foundation of love and self-love that you know and practice today. As we awaken to our innate inner truth, we consciously choose the kind of love that nourishes our self, others and the world around us.
It has been mentioned above that self-love is being consciously connected to one’s innate intelligent self that is also known as higher self. Conscious Connection refers to one’s awareness of its spiritual energy and soul’s essence residing within its unique physical body. It is important for us, as human beings to be mindful about our relationship to soul’s essence because it holds the power connection to the source within and the universal consciousness that we are ONE. One easy and simple yet powerful way of connecting of to our soul energy is through conscious breathing. In times of feeling stressed and overwhelmed, become mindful of your breathing. Human’s outbreath (exhale) is connected to the parasympathetic nervous system which is in-charge of slowing heart rate and relaxing muscles. Breathing allows us to connect not only to our soul energy, but it also helps us clear our minds and stay present in the moment. The power of oneself lies on our conscious connection, as we continue to evolve and understand the untapped power that lies within us as divine creation.
“It is dishonourable for a reasonable soul to live in so divinely built mansion as the body she/he resides in altogether unacquainted with the exquisite magnificent structure of it.”
~ Robert Boyle (1627-1691) ~
Father of Modern Chemistry